Why You Are Truly Here

D.e.n.i_C
5 days ago
4 min read

Seriously. How many times have you looked at that one destination you want to visit, that specific activity you’ve been dying to try, or even that one piece of leather clothing you’ve added to your cart five times but never bought?

You look, you linger, and then… you do nothing. You tell yourself that dreaming is enough. But without a plan and a moment of courage, "dreaming" is just a polite word for scrolling.

I have been where you are, watching people do things I haven't dared to do myself. Wearing things I thought were way too authentic for me. I watched people travel to destinations that have been on my bucket list for a long time. I scrolled, and scrolled, and scrolled. Until I found a way out, or better to say, a way in - through coaching.

We like to believe in the romance of the "stumble." We tell ourselves we found a new hobby, a new mentor, or a profound piece of advice because we were simply wandering through the digital woods and happened upon a clearing.

But let’s be honest with each other: In the modern world, chance is a ghost.

When I ask my clients how they found me, many pause, tilt their heads, and say, "You just... popped up. It was total luck." I usually smile, because I know better. You didn't find this page by accident. You are reading these words right now because a complex, invisible architecture, designed to map the contours of your soul, decided you needed to see them.

The Algorithm Knows Your Secrets

We often treat the "Algorithm" like a cold, mathematical engine. In reality, it is the most sophisticated mirror ever built. It doesn't care about who you pretend to be for your colleagues or what you say you want at a dinner party. It cares about where your thumb lingers. It tracks the split-second pause over a quote about "starting over," the repeated views on a video about "empowerment," and the late-night searches for "how to feel more alive."

Your feed is the autobiography of your subconscious.

While you are busy navigating your daily life, your digital shadow is busy building a world. If I were to look at your feed right now, I wouldn't just see content; I would see your "Secret World."

It shows your quietest fears.
It highlights your unacted-upon ambitions.
It reveals the gaps in your life that you are trying to fill with scrolling.

The algorithm doesn't just know what you like; it knows what you are yearning for. It recognized a frequency in you that matched the frequency of this message. You are here because your digital reflection finally caught your eye.

Mapping Your World

Take a moment to step back and look at the "world" you have built for yourself online. If your social media feed was a physical room you had to live in, what would it look like?

* What is it full of? Is it full of comparison and people doing "better" than you? Or is it full of tools, inspiration, and calls to action?

* What is the "vibe" of your feed? Is it anxious and frantic, or is it seeking depth and stillness?

* What is the most exciting thing in it? Usually, the thing that excites you most in your feed is the thing you are most afraid to actually try in real life.

* How would you describe the person who "has it all" in that world? When you see someone living the life you want, what adjectives come to mind? Confident? Free? Disciplined? Seen?

The Gap Between You and "Them"

This is where the mirror gets uncomfortable. When we see that "ideal person" on our screens, the one with the career, the confidence, or the jacket we want, we assume they have more money, more luck, or better genetics.

They don't. They just have a different relationship with their desires.

They stopped scrolling past their potential and started inhabiting it. They crossed the line from being a spectator of their own interests to being the creator of their own reality. They didn't just look at the leather; they put it on and walked out the door.

You didn't "pop up" here by chance. You are here because you have reached a saturation point. Your inner world is full of seeds ready to sprout, and the algorithm, acting as a silent gardener, has finally brought you to the water. The "chance" encounter you think happened today was actually an appointment.

The "Secret World" you’ve been building in your mind has become too big to stay hidden. It wants to become your physical reality. But to inhabit that world, you have to become a version of yourself that does instead of just watches.

Ask yourself: What is the one thing that "ideal version" of you does differently the moment they wake up?

Is it the way they speak to themselves? The boundaries they hold? Or perhaps, the courage they have to stop watching others live and finally start their own journey? The person you want to become isn't waiting for more "likes" or more data; they are waiting for you to acknowledge that you are ready.

The algorithm did its job; it brought us together. Now, the rest is up to you.

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